Good day ladies and gentlemen. Welcome to #MySexuality. In today’s edition, we shall be discussing “Sexual Satisfaction : A Myth???” What is sexual satisfaction ? Is it achievable? Is it a myth?
According to MacNeil & Byers, “Sexual satisfaction is not just physical pleasure nor is it simply the absence of dissatisfaction or problems. Rather, sexual satisfaction involves the overall feeling we are left with after considering the positive and negative aspects.”
Surprise! The key to sexual satisfaction may be nothing more than having sex and having it often.
Both men and women report higher levels of sexual satisfaction when they have more sex, kissing and cuddling in their lives. Everyone has their own idea of what “good sex” is. Everyone experiences sex and their own sexuality in unique ways. How you think about “good sex” has a lot to do with what you’ve learned about it. The society/culture, the value you place on it as a part of your life also has a lot to do with it.
Good sex can mean knowing what you want and what your partner wants. This is very important. It’s not enough to know what you and your partner wants, it’s important to talk about it. Communication is key.
Couples, listen up. You’re not doomed to a sexless long-term relationship or an unfulfilling sexual experience. To have a sexually satisfying marriage, there are some points that are important:
1. Communication: Talk About What You Want. Do you Like to be touched in a certain way? Tell your partner. Better yet, show your partner. If you don’t ask for what you want, you might not get it. Be open. Tell/Show him/her.
2. Be Confident in yourself: Healthy self-esteem can improve all facets of your life. It’s not surprising that people with good self-esteem also have healthy, satisfying sex lives. Open communication combined with a desire to please both oneself and one’s partner? Win-win. Police your mind. Shut down any negative thoughts you have about yourself, and focus on the things that are great about you.
3. Be Adventurous: Take Lovemaking out of the bedroom. Break the routine. Take your sexual experiences outside your bedroom. A change of scenery within the privacy of your own home can add excitement to the rendezvous. Sexual spontaneity and the excitement of sex in a new place can give you an adrenaline rush, intensifying the experience.
4. Not just missionary…….Have you, like countless other couples, fallen into a sex routine? A Kiss here, a touch there……. you know what you like, what your partner likes, and you both know it works. Breaking out of the routine “style” can bring both greater sexual satisfaction and greater intimacy with your partner.
5. Work on Your Pelvic Muscles. Cardio is good for your heart. And kegel exercises are good for sex. Not only do they help to relieve urinary incontinence, but they also enhance orgasms. Better orgasms, or an easier time reaching orgasm, can be an important step to being sexually satisfied.
6. Love yourself: When it comes to having good sex, sometimes your thoughts get in your own way. Especially when those thoughts are negative about your weight, your physical condition etc. A negative body image can distract you from having satisfying sexual experiences. Love yourself.
Sexual satisfaction is attainable if your overall relationship with your spouse is sound and good. Sexual satisfaction is attainable if your sex life brings more fun than pain, that is, the fun level exceeds your expectations. It can’t be over emphasized that sexual satisfaction will increase when relationship satisfaction is high.
Sexual satisfaction is not a myth. It should be the reality of every married couple. Enjoy, not endure your sex life as a couple. Communication is key. Confidence in oneself is paramount. Work on yourself. Work on your partners. Be adventurous. God bless our homes as we find pleasure in our spouses’ arms. Sexual satisfaction is the real deal.
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